中年觉醒：重塑生命与生活的力量 阿瑟．C．布鲁克斯 著 提前到来的人生下半场，该如何应对？直面中年期的困惑和挑战
走出中年的迷雾，寻找生命的新意义。
《中年觉醒：重塑生命与生活的力量》揭开了中年期的困惑和挑战，引导你发现生活中未曾触及的深处。是否曾感到职业生涯的停滞不前？是否对未来的不确定感到焦虑？
当改变发生，你有没有勇气展开另一种人生？本书通过深刻的见解和实用的策略，帮助你在生命的转折点找到方向。
●职业下行，比你想象中来得更快：揭示了事业发展的真相和中年期可能遭遇的挑战，提供了应对策略和转变思维的方法。
●雨过天晴，你没意识到的新机遇：在挑战中发现成长的机会，教你如何在困境中寻找新的可能。
●启动转型，摆脱成功上瘾：探讨如何跳出成功带来的陷阱，找到真正的自我和生活的价值。
●轻装上阵，放下身外之物：教你如何减轻生活负担，专注于内在的成长和满足感。
●思考死亡，建立联系，化弱为强，投身潮落：这些章节深入探讨了如何面对生命的问题，建立更深层次的人际关系，以及如何在挑战中找到自己的力量和方向。
结尾的六字法则“用物、爱人、敬神”，将整本书的智慧浓缩成简洁有力的生活哲学，即在物质世界中合理使用物品而不是对它们产生依赖，真心地去爱和珍惜身边的人，以及保持一种对生命和宇宙更深层次的尊重和
敬畏——助你在惶惶不安的中年转型期找到坚实的支撑和前行的勇气。
《中年觉醒》的价值在于它的现实性和深度，它敦促我们正视并接纳自身的不足，放下过去的执念，勇敢地拥抱变化和不确定。这不仅是一位哈佛教授的生命领悟，更是一份帮你优雅地度过人生下半场的实用指南。与其在下坡路上徒劳挣扎，不如让这个过程成为一种新的力量。这种力量与我们过往追求的幸福不同，它更深层、更持久，甚至可能带你领悟到生命的真正意义。
《中年觉醒》是一本关于如何在事业下行时找到新的成功和幸福的励志书。
作者阿瑟·布鲁克斯是一位知名的社会科学家、哈佛教授和幸福专栏作家，他在职业生涯的高峰之际，开始了一段为期七年的探索之旅，试图摆脱“奋发向上者的诅咒”，找到一种新的生活方式。
在本书中，他分享了他的发现和经验，为读者提供了一个实用的路线图，让他们有机会从容度过人生下半场。他教你如何放下过去的成就，接受现实的挑战，思考生命的意义，培育自己的兴趣和爱好，归隐自己的内心世界，投身于有意义的事业。他用六字法则总结了这些建议：接受、放下、思考、培育、归隐、投身。
阅读这本书，你可以摆脱对未来感到恐惧和不安的心理状态，找到一种新的视角和思维方式，让你能够更好地认识自己，更好地面对自己，更好地改变自己。你也可以从真实故事中获得启发和指导，看到他们如何在人生下半场面对各种挑战和机遇，如何调整自己的心态和行为，如何实现自己的梦想和目标。无论你是处于哪个生命阶段的人，或者是关心人生下半场的人，你都可以从这本书中获得有益的知识和力量。
现任哈佛大学肯尼迪学院及哈佛商学院公共领导力实践教授，主讲幸福和领导力课程。自1998 年踏入学术界以来，布鲁克斯教授以其深邃的见解和独到的研究，贡献了152 篇学术文章和12 本深具影响力的专著，涉及领导力、公共财政、幸福学、慈善以及社会企业家精神等领域。
他的研究赢得了学术界的广泛认可，其中许多成果更是被同行多次引用，彰显了他在各研究领域的地位和广泛影响力。布鲁克斯教授的著作经常占据《纽约时报》畅销榜单和亚马逊心理自助类书籍的前列。他还是杰出的公众演说家和《大西洋月刊》专栏《如何建立生活》的创始人。他在各大平台上的演讲和对谈视频等吸引了数百万观众，其中视频观看量高达到41 万人次。自2020 年起，他为《大西洋月刊》撰写的《如何建立生活》系列文章近200 篇，不仅深受读者喜爱，而且产生了广泛的影响力，帮助无数人重获幸福。 中山大学法学院副教授。
引 言 飞机上, 一个男人改变了我的生命1
第一章 职业下行, 比你想象中来得更快7
第二章 发展你的第二曲线31
第三章 摆脱渴望成功的瘾53
第四章 放下身外之物77
第五章 思考人终有一死109
第六章 在爱中重建关系125
第七章 进入你的林栖期163
第八章 化脆弱为力量187
第九章 中年转型没那么难205
结 语 七字法则229
致 谢235
注 释237
飞机上, 一个男人改变了我的生命
在洛杉矶飞往华盛顿特区的深夜航班上, 坐在我身后的一位老妇人怒气冲冲地说。飞机上又黑又静, 大部分人不是在睡觉, 就是在看电影。我开着笔记本电脑, 拼命干活, 现在我完全想不起来当时自己在忙什么, 但似乎是一件对我的生活、幸福和未来至关重要的事。一个男人低声回答, 他应该是老妇人的丈夫。接着, 老妇人又说: “好了, 以后别再整天说自己没用了。”
飞机落地后, 灯开了, 我看了一眼这个落寞的男人。看到他的脸我吓了一跳, 因为我知道他是谁, 他是一位名人、一位大人物, 甚至可以说是美国家喻户晓的人物。在20 世纪80 年代, 因其勇敢、爱国精神和了不起的成就, 他成了人人拥戴的英雄人物, 也是我打小就崇拜的大英雄。
当他从过道经过时, 乘客们都认出了他, 大家怀着崇敬的心情小声嘀咕着。站在驾驶舱门口的飞行员也认出了他,他说出了我的想法: “先生, 当我还是个小男孩时, 我就很崇拜您!” 这位就在几分钟前还说活着没意思的老人, 看到
自己荣光依旧, 立刻笑逐颜开。
我想知道: 到底哪一个是他自己? 是眼前这位充满喜悦和骄傲的人, 还是20 分钟前跟他妻子说自己是个废物的那个人?
在接下来的几个星期, 我一直都无法摆脱那一幕所带来的认知失调。
那是2012 年的夏天, 我刚刚过完48 岁生日。虽然我不像飞机上的那位先生一样家喻户晓, 但我的职业生涯也发展得相当顺利。我是华盛顿特区一家知名智库的负责人, 这家智库正蓬勃发展、蒸蒸日上。我出版了一些畅销书, 人们愿意听我的演讲。我还为《纽约时报》撰写专栏文章。8 年前, 也就是2004 年, 在40 岁生日时, 我创建了一个职业目标清单, 我觉得如果这些目标能够一一实现, 我一定无比满足。后来我确实追上或超过了很多人。然而, 8 年后的我并不觉得很满足、很幸福。虽然内心的欲望得到了满足, 但成功并没有为我带来想象中的快乐。
即使成功确实带来了满足感, 但这种满足感可持续吗?
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走出中年的迷雾，寻找生命的新意义。
《中年觉醒：重塑生命与生活的力量》揭开了中年期的困惑和挑战，引导你发现生活中未曾触及的深处。是否曾感到职业生涯的停滞不前？是否对未来的不确定感到焦虑？
当改变发生，你有没有勇气展开另一种人生？本书通过深刻的见解和实用的策略，帮助你在生命的转折点找到方向。
●职业下行，比你想象中来得更快：揭示了事业发展的真相和中年期可能遭遇的挑战，提供了应对策略和转变思维的方法。
●雨过天晴，你没意识到的新机遇：在挑战中发现成长的机会，教你如何在困境中寻找新的可能。
●启动转型，摆脱成功上瘾：探讨如何跳出成功带来的陷阱，找到真正的自我和生活的价值。
●轻装上阵，放下身外之物：教你如何减轻生活负担，专注于内在的成长和满足感。
●思考死亡，建立联系，化弱为强，投身潮落：这些章节深入探讨了如何面对生命的问题，建立更深层次的人际关系，以及如何在挑战中找到自己的力量和方向。
结尾的六字法则“用物、爱人、敬神”，将整本书的智慧浓缩成简洁有力的生活哲学，即在物质世界中合理使用物品而不是对它们产生依赖，真心地去爱和珍惜身边的人，以及保持一种对生命和宇宙更深层次的尊重和
敬畏——助你在惶惶不安的中年转型期找到坚实的支撑和前行的勇气。
《中年觉醒》的价值在于它的现实性和深度，它敦促我们正视并接纳自身的不足，放下过去的执念，勇敢地拥抱变化和不确定。这不仅是一位哈佛教授的生命领悟，更是一份帮你优雅地度过人生下半场的实用指南。与其在下坡路上徒劳挣扎，不如让这个过程成为一种新的力量。这种力量与我们过往追求的幸福不同，它更深层、更持久，甚至可能带你领悟到生命的真正意义。
《中年觉醒》是一本关于如何在事业下行时找到新的成功和幸福的励志书。
作者阿瑟·布鲁克斯是一位知名的社会科学家、哈佛教授和幸福专栏作家，他在职业生涯的高峰之际，开始了一段为期七年的探索之旅，试图摆脱“奋发向上者的诅咒”，找到一种新的生活方式。
在本书中，他分享了他的发现和经验，为读者提供了一个实用的路线图，让他们有机会从容度过人生下半场。他教你如何放下过去的成就，接受现实的挑战，思考生命的意义，培育自己的兴趣和爱好，归隐自己的内心世界，投身于有意义的事业。他用六字法则总结了这些建议：接受、放下、思考、培育、归隐、投身。
阅读这本书，你可以摆脱对未来感到恐惧和不安的心理状态，找到一种新的视角和思维方式，让你能够更好地认识自己，更好地面对自己，更好地改变自己。你也可以从真实故事中获得启发和指导，看到他们如何在人生下半场面对各种挑战和机遇，如何调整自己的心态和行为，如何实现自己的梦想和目标。无论你是处于哪个生命阶段的人，或者是关心人生下半场的人，你都可以从这本书中获得有益的知识和力量。
现任哈佛大学肯尼迪学院及哈佛商学院公共领导力实践教授，主讲幸福和领导力课程。自1998 年踏入学术界以来，布鲁克斯教授以其深邃的见解和独到的研究，贡献了152 篇学术文章和12 本深具影响力的专著，涉及领导力、公共财政、幸福学、慈善以及社会企业家精神等领域。
他的研究赢得了学术界的广泛认可，其中许多成果更是被同行多次引用，彰显了他在各研究领域的地位和广泛影响力。布鲁克斯教授的著作经常占据《纽约时报》畅销榜单和亚马逊心理自助类书籍的前列。他还是杰出的公众演说家和《大西洋月刊》专栏《如何建立生活》的创始人。他在各大平台上的演讲和对谈视频等吸引了数百万观众，其中视频观看量高达到41 万人次。自2020 年起，他为《大西洋月刊》撰写的《如何建立生活》系列文章近200 篇，不仅深受读者喜爱，而且产生了广泛的影响力，帮助无数人重获幸福。 中山大学法学院副教授。
引 言 飞机上, 一个男人改变了我的生命1
第一章 职业下行, 比你想象中来得更快7
第二章 发展你的第二曲线31
第三章 摆脱渴望成功的瘾53
第四章 放下身外之物77
第五章 思考人终有一死109
第六章 在爱中重建关系125
第七章 进入你的林栖期163
第八章 化脆弱为力量187
第九章 中年转型没那么难205
结 语 七字法则229
致 谢235
注 释237
飞机上, 一个男人改变了我的生命
在洛杉矶飞往华盛顿特区的深夜航班上, 坐在我身后的一位老妇人怒气冲冲地说。飞机上又黑又静, 大部分人不是在睡觉, 就是在看电影。我开着笔记本电脑, 拼命干活, 现在我完全想不起来当时自己在忙什么, 但似乎是一件对我的生活、幸福和未来至关重要的事。一个男人低声回答, 他应该是老妇人的丈夫。接着, 老妇人又说: “好了, 以后别再整天说自己没用了。”
飞机落地后, 灯开了, 我看了一眼这个落寞的男人。看到他的脸我吓了一跳, 因为我知道他是谁, 他是一位名人、一位大人物, 甚至可以说是美国家喻户晓的人物。在20 世纪80 年代, 因其勇敢、爱国精神和了不起的成就, 他成了人人拥戴的英雄人物, 也是我打小就崇拜的大英雄。
当他从过道经过时, 乘客们都认出了他, 大家怀着崇敬的心情小声嘀咕着。站在驾驶舱门口的飞行员也认出了他,他说出了我的想法: “先生, 当我还是个小男孩时, 我就很崇拜您!” 这位就在几分钟前还说活着没意思的老人, 看到
自己荣光依旧, 立刻笑逐颜开。
我想知道: 到底哪一个是他自己? 是眼前这位充满喜悦和骄傲的人, 还是20 分钟前跟他妻子说自己是个废物的那个人?
在接下来的几个星期, 我一直都无法摆脱那一幕所带来的认知失调。
那是2012 年的夏天, 我刚刚过完48 岁生日。虽然我不像飞机上的那位先生一样家喻户晓, 但我的职业生涯也发展得相当顺利。我是华盛顿特区一家知名智库的负责人, 这家智库正蓬勃发展、蒸蒸日上。我出版了一些畅销书, 人们愿意听我的演讲。我还为《纽约时报》撰写专栏文章。8 年前, 也就是2004 年, 在40 岁生日时, 我创建了一个职业目标清单, 我觉得如果这些目标能够一一实现, 我一定无比满足。后来我确实追上或超过了很多人。然而, 8 年后的我并不觉得很满足、很幸福。虽然内心的欲望得到了满足, 但成功并没有为我带来想象中的快乐。
即使成功确实带来了满足感, 但这种满足感可持续吗?
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• Shipping: Standard Domestic Shipping within the United States charges USD 4.99. Standard International Shipping from United Kingdom, Germany and Japan to the United States charges 14.99.
• Order Processing: Please allow 1-2 business days for order processing and preparation before shipment.
• Domestic Shipping: Orders within the U.S. are shipped via USPS or FedEx, depending on the origin of the product. The average transit time is 3-7 business days.
• International Shipping: Currently, we only ship within the USA.
• Tracking Information: Every order is trackable. You will receive a tracking number once your order has been shipped. Products may be shipped from various global fulfillment centers.
Shipping Delays:
Please note that shipping times may vary due to factors beyond our control, such as weather conditions, natural disasters, or peak holiday periods. While we strive to ensure timely delivery, the exact arrival time cannot be guaranteed and is managed by the shipping carrier.
Shipping Options:
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Standard Delivery: Most orders are shipped within 3-7 business days. Larger items may utilize LTL shipping for safe handling.
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Handling Time: We handle shipments on business days (Monday - Friday), with a preparation time of 1-2 days.
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Additional Charges: Some items require additional shipping charges due to their size, weight, or special handling. These charges are specified on the product pages and are not eligible for shipping discounts.
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Exclusions: Gift cards, packaging, taxes, and prior purchases do not count toward the minimum purchase requirement for free shipping. This offer is valid only for shipments to U.S. addresses, including Puerto Rico.
Delivery Details:
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Estimates: Standard shipping within the US typically takes 3-7 business days. These are estimates and not guarantees.
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Shipping Restrictions: We ship to all 50 states, Washington, DC, U.S. territories, and APO/FPO/DPO addresses. Shipping options vary based on the delivery address.
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Remote Areas: Shipments to remote areas may incur additional charges or require pickup from a nearby shipping partner’s location.
Shipping Confirmation:
You will receive a shipping confirmation email with a tracking number as soon as your order is dispatched. If you do not receive this email immediately, please be assured that your items will arrive within the estimated delivery window provided at checkout.
Order Modifications:
If you need to cancel or modify your order, please contact our customer support immediately.
Issues with Delivery:
If your order shows as delivered but you have not received it, please contact the shipping carrier directly to resolve the issue. For persistent problems, contact our customer service at cs@everymarket.com.
Customer Support:
Our team is available 24/7 to assist you with any questions or concerns regarding your order. We are committed to ensuring a smooth shopping experience.
Return & Refund Policy Overview
Please review our return and refund policies below to ensure a smooth transaction process.
Return Policy
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Duration: You have 30 days from receiving your item to initiate a return.
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Condition: Items must be unworn, unwashed, with original tags and packaging intact.
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Shipping Costs: Customers are responsible for return shipping costs.
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Packaging: Ensure returned items are well-packaged to avoid damage during transit.
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Tracking: Use a trackable and insured shipping method as we are not liable for items lost or damaged on return.
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Initiating a Return: Contact us at cs@everymarket.com to start your return. We will provide a return shipping label and instructions upon approval. Returns without prior approval will not be accepted.
How to Return
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Method: Returns must be sent back by mail to the address provided in the return instructions.
Return Label
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Defective Products: Return labels are provided for defective items.
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Non-Defective Returns: Customers are responsible for obtaining their return shipping label.
Product Conditions for Return
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Eligible Products: Returns are only accepted for items in new condition.
Nonreturnable Items
Certain items are not eligible for return:
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Electronic devices after 30 days (e.g., computers, laptops, Kindles)
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Gift cards, prepaid game cards
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Perishable goods, live insects, some jewelry, some health and personal care items
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Customized or personalized products
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Items with special shipping restrictions
Refund Policy
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Window: Eligible products may be returned within 30 days of delivery for a refund.
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Refund Method: Refunds are processed to the original payment method or as store credit for items purchased with gift cards.
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Processing Time: Refunds are processed within 3-5 business days after we receive the return; please allow additional time for shipping and bank processing.
Claims
Inspect your order upon arrival and report any defects, damages, or incorrect items immediately to allow us to address the issue. For claims, contact our support team with details of the issue.
Exchange Policy
For the quickest service, return your original item and place a new order for the desired product once your return is accepted.
Return Address
EveryMarket Customer Service 2101 E Terra Ln, O'Fallon, MO 63366
Customer Support
Available 24/7 for any questions or assistance needed:
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Phone: +1 636-312-5925
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Email: cs@everymarket.com
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